It was after I missed one yesterday that I realized what it was: A missed opportunity.
After publishing this article yesterday, a reader sincerely commented.
First on how lovely an article it was and most importantly how she had a similar experience in the past and how she plans to apply the idea in her recent goal.
After reading the comment, I replied appreciating her kind words and wished her success in the most recent goal she mentioned in her comment.
I was so glad someone resonated with my experience and truth! It was the most joyful thing I experience that day.
A few hours after, something didn’t feel right. I felt I’ve missed something!
After a while I realized what it was: I missed an opportunity to connect.
In her comment, she mentioned how she’s in a similar experience in the past. And her decision to apply its lesson in the nearest future.
All I could say was “thanks for the kind words,” and “I wish you success in your endeavor”.
Too shallow for so deep and sincere a comment!
It was a golden opportunity to connect, but I missed it!
How to Never Miss the Opportunity to Connect
1. Know when people resonate with your story
These are the ones that are best described as delighted readers.
They really connect with your idea and experiences.
One way to recognize them is the length and content of their comments:
They are usually long and contains an experience they have had in the past and sometimes how they plan to apply the lessons you shared into their future goal.
When you notice those comments, don’t just scan through them. These are the kind of readers that can easily become friends and support each other in the journey of life.
It’s easy to form relationships on the platform of similar experiences.
Readers with similar life experiences are easy to make friends with.
And to make such friends is one of what you will be grateful to have in your journey as a writer.
Writing is a long journey, but with a good company, the journey seems short.
“Good company in a journey makes the way seem shorter.”
2. Connect with them
After identifying those readers, the next best thing to do is to connect with them.
For a while, this was a tough job for me.
Usually, a long comment after publishing a story make me have cold feet!
Probably because I didn’t know enough to recognize it was an opportunity to start a friendship with some.
Now I long to have those comments on my articles.
Unfortunately, they come once in a long while.
When they show up, connect with the person.
Here’s how to do it:
Identify the experience they share in the comment and sincerely offer to know more about it so as to help however you can.
Always be the first to give.
Depending on the situation, you can offer to support like:
- Checking on them on how they are pursuing the goal;
- Sending some words of encouragement every once in a while;
- Heartily giving some financial supports( no matter how small)…
The most effective point to connect with people is through their experiences in life.
So when they share them with you, do not scan through and leave a superficial reply as I did.
You can do better:
Connect with them through the experiences they shared with you.